I feel so all alone
trapped and I can't get out
climbing and falling again
no one can hear me shout

Chains wrapped around my neck
my arms flailing all around
getting lost within this world
no one can hear a sound

Thoughts of death and commotion
racing through my mind
words I never say
are spoken, nothing left behind

Help me I cant help myself
everyone's quick to judge me
help me I'm lost
I just want to be free

© Abbye

What I really like about a book I put in the Nerd Shop - A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom are the four agreements as described by the author: Be impeccable with your word. Don't take anything personally. Don't make assumptions. Always do your best.  Over the years, I have learned these simple truths, mostly through life experiences.  When I saw these four agreements were part of this book, I knew I had to put it on my reading list! 
I haven't delved into the details of the book, so I am not entirely certain how the author will use these, but this is what I think of when I read these four agreements:
  • Be impeccable with your word
Sometimes you only have your word! Be honest and truthful! Don't say things just to appease someone. Don't make promises you cannot keep! 
  • Don't take anything personally
You really can't take it personally, especially when someone lashes out at you. You never know what someone else is going through in their life. When you don't take things personally, it is easier to stay positive and supportive without getting defensive. 
  • Don't make assumptions
I learned early on about the word assume when you break it down - it makes an ass out of you and me (ass-u-me). I probably learned that when I was 10 years old and never forgot it. You can't assume you know what someone means or that they understand what you mean. Reflective listening really helps to avoid assumptions. In reflective listening, you listen and try to understand what the other party is saying, then you repeat it back to them. They will be able to correct any misunderstanding!
  • Always do your best
It doesn't mean you have to be perfect at everything, but it does mean you have to give 110% or more - even when the end result doesn't count on you doing your best. For example, one time I just needed 70 points out of 100 on a project to get an A in a class - I could have did my best, but I didn't. I received 75 points on the project and got an A in the class. Not only was my professor disappointed in the final project, more importantly, I was. The reward for doing your best isn't always extrinsic -something you get, the reward for doing your best is intrinsic - such as personal satisfaction!

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